tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27612005.post114876696873297802..comments2023-10-18T08:12:28.404-07:00Comments on Be a good one: The power of "and" and the fundamental questionlesliehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11495166674226656034noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27612005.post-1148871041624944442006-05-28T19:50:00.000-07:002006-05-28T19:50:00.000-07:00Find purpose in everything. Always remember that l...Find purpose in everything. Always remember that life is really good, with or without grand schemes. <BR/><BR/>Think about it: No matter what you do, you will not become a "bad" mom or wife. You haven't done it yet so why would adding in some more interests change that?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27612005.post-1148839341538998912006-05-28T11:02:00.000-07:002006-05-28T11:02:00.000-07:00Of course it's possible, but one thing I think we ...Of course it's possible, but one thing I think we have to let go of is this idea of "Balance" because there really is NO balance. I remember reading something a few years ago about "life in stages"...at this stage in my life, I am not working because I am concentrating on the mom thing or whatever, at the next stage my focus has shifted, and so on and so on. That whole idea of balance trips us up...thinking we have to be able to do it all, be everything to everyone. I think you're moving towards a new stage...your kids are getting older so they need less of your attention so you are ready to focus on some new things. It's less about being unhappy with your role as wife and mother, and more about being freed up (because your mom work-load is shifting) to add some new things. Once you open up your mind to the idea, these new opportunities will suddenly seem to be EVERYWHERE. <BR/><BR/>On online coach I really like is KristinCoach.com. I have never used her "paid" services but I've known of her for years and would like to do it one day. Her motto is "What you do want more of? What do you want less of? What are you going to do about it?" You can sign up for her emails...they're full of excellent ideas and new ways of looking at things. She's got a refreshing, energetic style I like. <BR/><BR/>Hope all this makes sense!!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07190837265529702540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27612005.post-1148834857351576212006-05-28T09:47:00.000-07:002006-05-28T09:47:00.000-07:00Leslie, I wish I knew the answer for you because I...Leslie, I wish I knew the answer for you because I'm struggling most the time with this question myself. I know several moms that are so happy being mom and wife 24/7 but it's not me. When asked what would you want to do, my answer is "I have no clue". Which I think is worse than knowing that you want to be a wife and mom exclusively. People aren't going to understand this and I'm sorry if it comes across self centered but I think there are alot of women trying to find that right balance. When you get headed in the right direction fill us in, please.Stacyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00585763421282911846noreply@blogger.com