Tuesday, August 25, 2009

Lightbulbs

I'm doing a lot of things to promote my emotional sobriety (a term I learned in AA that has application outside of addiction in my opinion). Here are two realizations from the last two days:
  • (From the First Ourselves teleclass) A quote from Cheryl Richardson "You're going to need to become ok with disappointing other people as you learn to take care of yourself."
  • (From today's counseling session) I was saying that my to-do list seems really stupid, because I'd fill it with stuff like "do laundry" and "pick up French dictionary." The counselor asked me what our home life would be like if I didn't do the things I do. That stopped me in my tracks. Our house runs (for the most part) smoothly. There are clean clothes. We don't run out of stuff. There are birds in the backyard because I keep the bird feeder filled. As I considered what I do, it occured to me that maybe there IS value in the simple stuff that is the better part of my days. And that made me feel pretty good.

6 comments:

Colette said...

I am happy that you realized this my friend. Hubby always tells me that if I wasn't doing the stuff I do, he'd fall to pieces (and the kids). My job makes it where he can focus on his job...we are a team. You are a team with your hubby too, so what you do daily makes his life easier. Never down yourself for making your home a smooth running machine. YOU are very important and everything you do is too :)

Irene said...

Great post, Leslie. It gave me a lot to think about. I often go through the same things. Is what I'm doing enough? It's sometimes hard to be a SAHM and grandma when everyone around you looks at self worth by what jobs or degrees they have. It's a struggle for me, too. Thanks for reminding me that there is a lot of value in the simple stuff.

cath said...

great post. yes! what would the house be like if we didnt do the things we do? I've got to remember that as I write out the lists, fill in the diarys, write memo's on the black boards, remind kids and man to do stuff etc...sometimes I just feel like a nag...

Jennifer said...

There is deep and infinite wisdom in both of the things you learned today and I am thankful for the reminder. Disappointing others is a difficult thing for me, but I am learning that it is an ok thing to do. AND anytime you think what you do isn't important or valuable, e-mail me. I'd LOVE to have one of you at home. When I come home and my SAHH has washed the dishes that have been sitting there for the last three days because I've worked 12 hour shifts each of those days and not had time to wash them after I fixed dinner, I jump for joy, 'bout pee my pants with happiness. To think that you oil that household machine like you do...well...what you do is infinitely valuable. Never forget it.

Jacey said...

I am having a hard time with this myself. My DH tells me all the time how much he appreciates what I do at home while he is at work all day. Still - it feels a little pointless to be filling the bird feeders when I used to be writing executives speeches, etc. I am sure that what I do is helpful and important. But it just isn't enough for me personally.

Brit-Man said...

Even the mundane, can be worthwhile.

Never doubt the reasons for the things you do. There is a point, and if something has a point, it can therefore have worth, when you know what why you're doing it.

So you definitely have a lot more personal value, than perhaps you realised.

:-) :-).

Matt